You’re still young, and you don’t know, so you should know.
Don’t trust guys who compliment you incessantly, who woo you and flirt heavily. Don’t follow back the guy who liked all your pics, who called you hot, who asks you for more pictures or to meet up. He’s in it for himself. He wants you to reciprocate.
If you are young and he wants you to give something up of yourself - your time, your efforts, your trust, something sacred to you, he’s in it for himself. If he wants you to go behind your parents’ backs, he’s in it for himself.
If he is for himself, he is automatically against you. If he is against morality, and respect, and trust, and building things up the right way, he is against you. That’s not love. That’s disrespect.
One of my favorite blogs said something along these lines: True love is sacrificial. LOVE IS SACRIFICIAL. It seeks to give, and not to take. The guy who gives up his time, his efforts, who spends time praying about and for you, who takes the time and trust to meet your family, he is in it for you.
No guy who truly likes you and wants you will ever go against the will of God to have you. Period. He will tread lightly and carefully, no matter his emotions, and even if they’re strong, the last thing he would want is for you to be accountable for bad acts.
Keep this in mind. You’re still young. Attention is always warranted. But the greatest thing you can be right now, at this age, is untouchable. The girl people are scared to approach, the one who commands respect just by being. The girl who worked really hard and is super smart and has the brightest of futures ahead. Don’t be eager for attention. Don’t accept attention from just anybody. Do your own thing. Hustle. Be loud and yourself and vibrant and dynamic. But don’t do it for a guy, and certainly don’t ever let a guy disrespect you.
I’ve been reading all of y’alls comments on this, and I am so so so so sorry and so disheartened that so many of you wrote “I wish someone had told me this.”
Yes yes and yes
I wish someone told me this when I was under 18.
At this time and phase of this generation, falling in love with a guy seems like to be a cure for every type of way you’re feeling. Girl the only person who has great control of what situation you’re in is YOU. Don’t ever think you need to keep up with the trend of having a boyfriend because you want to know how it feels like to be loved or showered with attention or someone to speak to at night when you’re completely broken. A boyfriend will come with his problems and tbh he’ll be adding to your problems. Do not rank him higher than your parents trust because once you’ve lost that life has betrayed you. I don’t even know. It’s late at night and I just wanted to let them Muslim Girls know who are single because of the respect they have towards their parents, keep it up. At the end of the day your parents want the best for you. You being a girl who has never touched weed, alcohol or drugs or who hasn’t had sex - tbh I wish I had that ‘title back’. TAKE CARE AND PRAY FOR ME (ramblings sorry x)
^^^^I agree 100%%% May Allah protect us and our younger sisters from harm